How to Confess

Before the Confession:

The most important part of the Confession takes place well before you ever arrive at Church. The Mystery of Confession is only as strong as the preparation you do in advance. We prepare for Confession by having regular time of self examination and repentance

We usually think of repentance as a part of the Confession process. However, the opposite is true. Repentance is not part of Confession; Confession is part of repentance. Confession needs to take place regularly – at least every 2 months. However, repentance needs to take place daily. The goal is that repentance is not an activity, but rather a lifestyle.

This happens by making time for regular Daily Self Examination. For more information about how this works, refer to the St. Mark pamphlet titled Guide to Daily Self Examination. Your Confession will only be as strong as your investment in this practice of Daily Self Examination.

Going to Confession:

Once we get in the habit of regular self examination, it becomes much easier to prepare for Confession. Try to get in the habit of confessing every 6-8 weeks. We will make this easier for you by setting regular times of confession. We want to treat the Mystery of Confession just as we treat the Mystery of the Eucharist – as a necessary part of our spiritual life that can be obtained at regular times.

Fr. Bishoy Confession times

  • Friday evenings, 6:00 – 7:30 pm
  • Saturday afternoons, 12:00 – 1:30 pm

Fr. Anthony Confession times

  • Friday evenings, 6:00 – 7:30 pm
  • Saturday evenings, 5:30 – 6:45 pm [in the chapel, not church]

During those times, you can just walk in and go straight to Confession. No appointment needed. The priest will be waiting in the church for anyone who wants to confess – first come, first serve.

During these hours, there is no time for counseling. Counseling needs to be done via appointment at a separate time. This is just for Confession. Again, it is a Mystery [sacrament] like the Eucharist. We want to treat it that way and not allow ourselves to get distracted or interrupted with outside things. Those things need to be done outside of this time.

Choose a Father of Confession:

The Orthodox concept of Confession has always stressed the importance of a father of confession. Confession is not just an impersonal listing of sins; it is part of a relationship of discipleship. It doesn’t matter who your father of confession is, but you need to choose one and stick with him – even when he doesn’t tell you what you want to hear. You can have several spiritual fathers; but only one father of confession, as St. Paul said, “For though you might have ten thousand instructors in Christ, yet you do not have many fathers” 1 Corinthians 4:15

Everyone must pray for their father of confession daily. This is a must. If you want him to be God’s mouthpiece in your life, then you must pray that God guides him and gives him the spirit of wisdom and prophecy as He did to the Old Testament prophets. In addition, praying for your father of confession will help to establish the spiritual bond of love and fatherhood needed for this relationship to be fruitful.